Becky is Better, The Complete Season One Episodes

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Click on either image of fighter Gina Carano, to read the Season One episodes of Becky is Better from The Endless Night Collection … Enjoy … 🙂

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I, The Jury [Book 04]

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June Wilkinson is Mondo Kane in “I, The Jury”

Click on the image of June Wilkinson, to read Book 04 of The Endless Night Collection … Enjoy … 🙂

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Code Dead [Book 03]

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Sunglasses After Dark, The Dark Side of the Rainbow – Issue #4

Click on the image of Sunglasses After Dark, to read Book 03 of The Endless Night Collection … Enjoy … 🙂

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Glenda [Book 02]

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Click on the image of Jenny McCarthy, to read Book 02 of The Endless Night Collection … Enjoy … 🙂

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Fight Like A Girl, The Complete Episodes [Book 00]

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Click on any of the images of boxer Natalya Ragozina, to read Book 00 of The Endless Night Collection … Enjoy … 🙂

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The Last of Us [Murder at The Dakota]

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The perfect setting for an old-fashioned, “dead body in a locked room” whodunit.

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The Endless Night, The First 16 Pages – [an excerpt from IUP, Book 01]

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Be careful what you wish for … sometimes you get it

Click on the image of Jenny Miller, Mondo’s BFF, to read the pages … Enjoy … 🙂

 

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Quote for the Day, Wednesday June 22, 2016

“There has never been any significant achievement in human history that was not accompanied by faith”

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Dr Zimmerman’s Tuesday Tip — 3 Ways to Be a Champion in Any Industry

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3 Ways to Be a Champion in Any Industry

My personal friend Lee Labrada (the former Mr. Universe, the man who holds more body building records than anyone in history) says, “Forget about winning.”  He tells me he’s known a lot of so-called winners, who have won a number of contests, but live despicable lives that, are not worth following or emulating.

I agree.  There’s a lot more to success than simply winning.

Indeed, the happiest and most accomplished people, on and off the job, are more than winners.  They’re what Lee and I call champions.

And the good news is you can be a champion.  Yes, YOU …if you do three things.

In fact, almost every day I’m teaching team members and leaders in business, education, finance, government, and healthcare how to become and remain champions.  The process starts when you master these three skills.

1. A Champions Keeps an Open Mind.

Champions reject “impossibility” thinking.  Meaning they refrain from thinking a particular goal might be impossible.

Instead, they choose and continue to think their goal is possible.  And as long as they think that way, their subconscious minds continue to work towards the achievement of their goal.

By contrast, whiners think, “That’ll never work.”  And they dream up all sorts of reasons why they shouldn’t even try to achieve their goal.  In other words, they rationalize their lack of effort by telling themselves “rational lies.”

2. A Champions Verbalizes the Positive.

Champions also talk differently than other folks.  I’m sure you’ve noticed.  They almost always find something positive to say.

Dr. Robert Schuller tells the story of the horrific drought during the Great Depression of the 1930’s. When harvest season came, his father would normally gather a hundred wagons-full of corn. But that year his father got a meager one-half wagon-load.

Robert says he’ll never forget his Dad’s response. As they sat at the dinner table holding hands, his father said, “I thank you God that I have lost nothing. For I have regained the seed I planted in the springtime.” He had planted a half wagon-load of seed and he harvested a half wagon-load in the fall.

While other farmers were saying, “We lost 90 to 100 loads,” his father taught him, “Never count up the might-have-beens or you’ll be dejected. Never look at what you have lost. Look at what you have left.” It’s the way champions talk.

Whiners, on the other hand tend to commiserate. They say such things as, “Oh, you don’t know the problems I have … or… I couldn’t do it …or …I tried that one time and I failed.” They speak out verbal curses that kill off their willingness to start and their ability to succeed.

3. A Champion Keeps on Trying.

It’s one of the key things that differentiate a champion and a loser.  Champions keep on trying.  They find a way to get it done.  Whiners don’t. It’s that simple.

One comedian on TV summarized it quite well. He said, “I always thought I was an underachiever. Then one day I realized I was just a darn failure. I never even tried.” That’s the sad but true story of many people’s lives.

Champions find a way. I learned that at a speaking engagement I had a while ago. I arrived at the Ritz Carlton Hotel in Phoenix-Scottsdale at 1:00 a.m., but my clothes didn’t. I was wearing jeans, a T-shirt, and tennis shoes and I was to address a new, high level, very important client — a tie and suit crowd — at 8:00 a.m.

I told the desk clerk my predicament. I asked him if I could borrow a suit that might be used by one of their waiters. He told me to check with housekeeping at 6:00 a.m. to see if they had anything.

At 6:00 a.m. I approached the head of housekeeping. She only had one suit and it was much too big. The sleeves were too long. The pants weren’t even hemmed. I took it. I figured I could pin up the pants and if I held my arms up when I gestured, the sleeves wouldn’t fall over my hands. The only other problem was they had no shoes whatsoever. I was forced to wear my white tennis shoes with my baggy Ritz Carlton suit.

So it was off to the speech. When the rather formal Vice President saw me, his first remark was,“What’s this outfit?” I explained what had happened and what I had done about it. He said, “Good thinking.”

The Vice President then introduced me to the audience. He described my ordeal. The audience loved the speech. They even thought my “outfit” added to the overall impact of the presentation and suggested that I always dress that way.

I don’t know about that. But I do know that champions find a way.

Such was the case with the Roeblings. John Roebling was the engineer who got the idea of building the Brooklyn Bridge that would tie Manhattan Island to Brooklyn. But all the bridge-building experts and structural engineers said it was impossible. And even if it could be built, the winds and tides would destroy it.

Nonetheless, John and his son, Washington, figured out how the problems could be solved. They began construction–until an awful accident occurred. In the same incident, John was killed and Washington got submerged beneath the water so long that he suffered permanent brain damage. In fact Washington never walked or talked again.

Everybody, except Washington, said to forget the project. He developed a communication system where he could touch one finger to the arm of his wife. Through her, he communicated to the engineers and supervised the project for 13 years.

And finally, in 1883 traffic streamed across the completed Brooklyn Bridge. When Washington Roebling was told the news, he wept for joy. He had found a way to make the impossible dream become a reality.  He was a champion in every sense of the word.

What about you?  Would you call yourself a champion?  Would other people at work and at home call you a champion?  I hope so.  Our lives and careers are too important to be anything less than that.

But if you’re not quite there yet … if you’re not the champion you would like to be … start with these three strategies.  And read my books, attend my “Journey to the Extraordinary” program, invite me to speak at your next meeting, or whatever … but do something.

Final Thought:  The person who wants to do something will find a way. The person who doesn’t will find an excuse.

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The Last of Us [Anatomy of a Murder, Part 3]

“Where must we go … we who wander this wasteland in search of our better selves?” – The First History Man [Mad Max: Fury Road].


Kaley Cuoco Chanel is lounging in the interviewer’s chair, way beyond nonchalant. The Beatnik is sporting a large grin on her face. This time, she’s not smiling at the one-way glass through which Wade Wilson is watching her while standing in the adjoining observation room. Instead, Kaley is mocking Mondo.

Mondo walks about the interrogation room. Sexy and severe, hers is the promiscuous gait of a 1950’s Jayne Mansfield on the prowl. Maryse stands in corner, unmoving since it came into the room.

This time, Kaley is not without counsel. Seated beside her is her lawyer, well-known LGBT mouthpiece Kristen Wiig. But. So far. Of the two of them. Kaley is doing all of the talking, unbridled by Ms. Wiig.

Except for the barrister’s Kaye and Mondo’s Koo. Ms. Wiig and Miss Kane are sporting simpatico looks. A look that would result from crossing a librarian with a dominatrix.

Perls. Prudz. Bolshoi, heavily-applied in the provocative manner of the Bolshoi’s ballerinas. Careys. Underneath their suits: bullet bras and thongs, smart phones and cigarette purses. No holster for Ms. Wiig, of course. Straight blonde hair yanked back into a sternka. In place of sternns, with their attendant heavy doses of overbearing prude, disfiguring severity, and overpowering sternness. Both women are wearing Kazuo Kawasaki 704’s (Sarah Palin Glasses). The style of eyeglasses worn by Sarah Palin, more commonly known as “palins”—sexual repression never looked better. Hard, pretty faces with big ugly mouths, mouths that reek of loathing and disdain even when that’s not their wearer’s intent, mouths that bespeak of sexual depravity [oftentimes unbridled] even when such depravity is not any part of the wearer’s personal life.

Of special note. In the case of these two women, Kristen and Mondo. Unbridled sexual depravity is integral to their lifestyles as swingers.

“I see according to your registration, Ms. Chanel, that you’re a pristinely ungifted one. A person immune to all forms of magic.”

“Are you asking or telling me?”

“Did it sound like a question or a rhetorical statement?”

“The latter.”

“Then, why did you bother asking me for a clarification that was unneeded by your own admission?”

That’s how it’s been for the last two hours without relent. An acidic, though polite, back and forth, between the two women, which has failed to produce the desired tantrum in Kaley. Kaley simply refuses to lose her cool and go vulgar, and incriminate herself. An uncharacteristic display of self-control on her part.

“Did you know the victims, Rich and Eleanor Christensen, personally?”

Again, that question of familiarity. Again, in response to it being asked for the umpteenth time, Wiig leans over and whispers something in Kaley’s ear.

“Yes. We’d get drunk together, from time to time.”

Then, the expected follow-up question, it too asked for the umpteenth time.

“Did you and Rich ever swap wives during these drunken orgies?”

“They weren’t orgies, not even binges. And Roberta is not my wife. She’s my robot.”

“You’re married, nonetheless.”

“It’s common law. The Church doesn’t recognize it. And neither does almost half of the fifty states.”

“Not recognized because it’s common law? Or because she’s metal?”

“Depends on the state.”

“And the Church?”

“Because she’s metal. Then again, you being Catholic like me, already know that.”

And again. Mondo doesn’t get the desired rise out of Kaley. But, the Vampire does notice that every time she asks a question that should get a rise out Kaley, Kaley begins picking the cuticles of her fingernails. Nervous habit? Neurosis? Or something else, something much more telling?

By now, the cuticles of Kaley’s fingernails are quite inflamed, some torn and ragged, from all of that picking. An Ares redness and cuticle abuse that reminds Mondo of something else.

“So, you fucked Eleanor while Rich fucked Roberta? In the same room, watching each other, all four of you, three flesh and one metal, all drunk?”

“Yep. Isn’t that how it works for you when you’ve been drinking a lot and you fuck someone else’s wife in front of them?”

“I’m asking the questions.” Mondo pauses for effect, then continues. “Tell me again about your plan to murder Abner Mares.”

“Never went through with it. After all, he’s still alive.”

“Tell me again about your plan to murder Abner Mares.” Kaley regurgitates her story about her plot to do away with the bestselling transgender author who she had grown tiresome gone hate filled with. “Did you ever relate this murderous plan to the Roosevelts while you went swinging and drunk with them?”

“Nope.”

Gotcha!, Mondo thinks.

That’s when the smile momentarily disappears from Kaley’s face, as she realizes her slipup. She’s just admitted that she knew that Rich and Eleanor Christensen were also known as Richard and Eleanor Roosevelt. Something that was not common knowledge.

Kaley regains her composure but assaults her cuticles even more feverously.

“I … mean … Who are the Roosevelts?”

“Like I said. I’m the one who asks the questions. Not you.” Again, a pause for effect. “Now, how did you find out about their professional pseudonym?”

Again. A whispered conversation between Kaley and her lawyer.

“We got high once, and they … Eleanor … let it slip out. Rich was real furious about her letting the cat out of the bag, but a BJ got him calmed down soon enough.”

“A blow job from whom?”

“Me.”

“Deep throat?”

“Yes.”

“High with them, only once?”

“I won’t go there.”

“Because it would be incriminating?”

“Not going there.”

“Incriminating, because the drug or drugs in question are illegal?”

“Not going there.”

Kaley hastens to get up from her seat, but Wiig bides her to sit back down and she complies reluctantly.

Mondo rephrases her previous question.

“Did you ever relate this murderous plan to the Roosevelts while you went swinging and high with them?”

“Yes. Just that one time.”

“This interview is officially over. Your client is no longer a person of interest in this ongoing murder investigation.”

 

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Joke for the Day, Friday June 17, 2016

Bob, a 70-year-old, extremely wealthy widower, shows up at the country club with a breathtakingly beautiful and very sexy 25-year-old blonde who knocks everyone’s socks off with her youthful sex appeal and charm. She hangs over Bob’s arm and listens intently to his every word.

His buddies at the club are all aghast. At the very first chance, they corner him and ask, “Bob, how’d you persuade her to marry you?”

“I lied about my age,” Bob replies.

“What, did you tell her you were only 50?”

Bob smiles and says, “No, I told her I was 90.”

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Lulu To Sir With Love 1967 Stereo

 

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Petula Clark Downtown. 1964

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The Seekers – Georgy Girl (1967 – Stereo)

Back in 1967, when The Seekers returned home to Australia for a visit, little did they know that their free concert at the Myer Music Bowl in their home town of Melbourne would break attendance records for the Southern hemisphere and TV ratings records for Australia! (continued…)

The concert forms part of the DVD ‘The Seekers at Home and Down Under’. The group sang live on the day, but because no promo video existed for the original (1966) hit version of the song, it is this which I’ve used for the audio, extending the video to include the middle 8 bars. The DVD with the live audio, (along with all The Seekers’ hits and much more) is available to buy on Amazon. You can see the clip here for comparison: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c-GAp…
More of these videos on the playlists below:
Best of the 60s in stereo: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PSxwq…
Reunion Performances: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZOlPC…
The Seekers concluded their Golden Jubilee tour in New Zealand in November 2014, and Judith Durham began her farewell tour there in April 2016. visit http://www.TheSeekers50th.com andhttp://judithdurham.com for more info and news.

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Wave – Howard Roberts – 1960’s

Wave by Howard Roberts 1960’s. A classic upbeat 1960’s instrumental played on a Sony TTS 3000 turntable with an SME 3009 mark 11 tonearm, and an Ortofon 10 cartridge. Not the best recording almost sounds electronically rechanneled. Roberts was born in Phoenix, Arizona, and began playing guitar at age 8. By the time he was 15 he was playing professionally locally.

In 1950 he moved to Los Angeles. There, with the assistance of Jack Marshall, he began playing with musicians including Bobby Troup, Chico Hamilton and Barney Kessel. In about 1956, Bobby Troup signed him to Verve Records as a solo artist. Around that time he decided to concentrate on recording, both as a solo artist and session musician, a direction he would continue until the early 1970s.

Roberts played rhythm guitar, lead guitar, bass and mandolin, in the studio and for television and movie projects, including lead guitar on the theme from The Twilight Zone, as well as the classic guitar themes in The Munsters, Bonanza, The Brady Bunch, Green Acres, Get Smart, Batman, Beverly Hillbillies, Andy Griffith, Peter Gunn, Johnny Quest, Gidget, Mannix, Lost in Space, Dragnet, Wild Wild West, Mission Impossible, The Odd Couple, and rhythm guitar on the theme from I Dream of Jeannie.

Artists Roberts backed included Georgie Auld, Peggy Lee (Fever), Eddie Cochran (Sittin In The Balcony), Bobby Day (Rockin Robin), Jody Reynolds (Endless Sleep), Shelley Fabares (Johnny Angel), Dean Martin (Houston), The Monkees, Roy Clark, Chet Atkins, and The Electric Prunes.

In 1961, Roberts designed a signature guitar which was originally produced by Epiphone. The guitar was a modified Gibson ES-175 (Epiphone is owned by Gibson and during this period Epiphone guitars were manufactured in the same factory as Gibson guitars in Kalamazoo, Michigan), with a round sound hole and a single pickup. A redesigned version was later produced by Gibson.[2] The Howard Roberts signature was borne by two other models made by Gibson: the Howard Roberts Custom and the Howard Roberts Fusion III.

In 1963, Roberts recorded Color Him Funky and H.R. Is A Dirty Guitar Player, his first two albums after signing with Capitol. Produced by Jack Marshall, they both feature the same quartet with Roberts (guitar), Chuck Berghofer (bass), Earl Palmer (drums) and Paul Bryant alternating with Burkley Kendrix on organ. Both albums were released on a single CD under the title Dirty & Funky on Randy Bachman’s label Guitarchives in 1998.[4] In all, he recorded nine albums with Capitol before signing with ABC Records/Impulse! Records.

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Jackie Davis – Meets The Trombones [LP vinyl 1959]

Taken from vinyl & edited by Wimmo – Disclaimer – I’m not trying to infringe on any copyrights, so if anybody has a problem with this upload, please tell me and I will take it down immediately. Otherwise, enjoy!

Jackie Davis – Meets the Trombones

1. Yours is my Heart alone
2. Frenesi
3. When I’m with You
4. My! Why!
5. There’s something in the Air.
6. Charleston Alley
7. Falling in love with love
8. Gonna get a Girl
9. Fascinating Rhythm
10. This can’t be love

Capitol ST-1180 [1959]

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Thought Warcraft Tanked? Nope—It Changed Blockbusters Forever / 想到魔兽重挫?都能跟得上,它改变了大片永远

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OVER THE WEEKEND, Legendary Pictures’ Warcraft opened in the United States with just over $24 million at the box office. For a summer blockbuster that cost an estimated $160 million to make, that’s a flop any way you look at it; in fact, it made less in its opening weekend than recent summer flops Battleship, The Lone Rangereven Fantastic Four.

But in China, Warcraft isn’t just doing better than it did in the U.S.—it’s breaking records. In five days, the film raked in $156 million, beating out last year’s Furious 7 to become the country’s highest-grossing opening for a foreign-produced film. To put that in the context of last year’s undisputed global hit: in China, Warcraft made more in five days than Star Wars Episode VII: The Force Awakens did in its entire theatrical run ($124 million).

It’s increasingly common for big-budget movies to make a significant portion of its box-office total outside the United States. But most films that rake in hundreds of millions of dollars worldwide still tend to make between 50 to 70 percent of that total internationally. Warcraft is on pace to become (deep breath) the highest-grossing American-produced film with the lowest percentage of its box office total coming from the U.S. in the past decade. “This will go down as a record breaker in terms of disparity between the North American box office and China,” says Jeff Bock, senior box office analyst at Exhibitor Relations Co. “It’s never happened before. Not like this.” Despite tepid reviews and dismal box office results most places, Warcraft‘s runaway success in China in all likelihood means a sequel, even multiple sequels. That’s a bellwether for blockbuster film production and international distribution.

China’s Box Office Juggernaut

Box office revenues in China grew by almost 50 percent in 2015, and have averaged 30 percent annual growth over the past five years. Revenues are growing so quickly that the Chinese box office may out-gross its United States counterpart as soon as 2017.

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However, China’s State Administration of Press, Publication, Radio, Film, and Television (SAPPRFT) only allows 35 foreign films to open in the country each year. That strict quota, and the potential for censorship, means that not all major American blockbusters get a crack at the rapidly growing movie going public in China.

But Legendary Pictures has been making a bigger play to appeal to Chinese audiences for the better part of a decade. The company acquired the rights to Blizzard’s Warcraft series in 2006, after its first film—Christopher Nolan’s Batman Begins. The next film in that trilogy, The Dark Knight, featured an extended heist sequence shot in Hong Kong. Legendary also produced Pacific Rim, another blockbuster that didn’t hit with American audiences (despite good reviews and a well-respected director) but made most of its money overseas. In fact, the company (which opened a wholly Chinese-owned subsidiary, Legendary East, in 2011) raised the $160 million budget for Warcraft by selling equity stakes to investors like the state-run China Film Group and media conglomerate Tencent.

That decision perhaps did more than anything to ensure the Chinese success of Warcraft: companies’ financial investment in the movie motivated a large-scale marketing campaign that was unprecedented for a foreign-produced film. It also influenced the distribution, which Bock says was more widespread that a typical American blockbuster: “A lot of major North America films cater to the metropolitan areas, and not necessarily the smaller markets. But Warcraftfiltered into markets that only local films usually have access to, because of the heavy promotion from major corporations within China.”

Domestic Failure Is An Option

All of Legendary’s forays into the Chinese film market culminated in the company’s acquisition earlier this year by Chinese conglomerate Dalian Wanda, which also owns the largest theater chain in the country. China currently has more 35,000 screens, and Wanda Cinema’s President stated earlier this week that the number could rise to as many as 80,000. That’s a handy bit of synergy in the making—if also the kind of potential monopoly that the United States broke up in the landmark 1948 antitrust case against Paramount Pictures, which led to the demise of the classic Hollywood studio system.

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But should Wanda Group continue to control both production and distribution of some movies, then Warcraft could be the first example of a new production behemoth that rivals the Disney/Lucasfilm/Marvel franchise machine. Two of the 10 highest-grossing films worldwide so far in 2016, The Mermaid and Monster Hunt, are Chinese productions that barely received distribution in the United States. If it passes Angry Birds and lands in the global top 10, perhaps Warcraft should count as the third.

For now, Warcraft is an exception, but it also may be a turning point. Should things continue in this vein, it’s not inconceivable for the U.S. box office to become an also-ran for mega-budget productions. “There’s a distinct possibility that Warcraft 2 goes into production, is fully financed in China, and does not get a major North American release,” Bock says. After all, with nearly 800 million moviegoers, it’s the biggest game in town—even bigger than World of Warcraft itself.

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Dr Zimmerman’s Tuesday Tip — Your Thoughts Can Bring Out the Best in Others

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At a recent sales conference, achievement awards were being given to the people who had sold the most. I’ll never forget the woman who received the highest award. She had performed superbly, made a great deal of money, but gave all the credit to her sales manager.

As she stood before the crowd of 3000 people, clutching her award as the top producer of the year, she talked about the slump she was in two years before. She said her future had looked so bleak that she had decided to quit on several occasions. But each time her manager persuaded her to stay. He kept telling her that she had great potential; indeed, he wouldn’t have hired her if he hadn’t believed in her.

The award winner continued her acceptance speech along those lines, but her concluding comment was most insightful. She said, “Through all those months when I wanted to quit, when I didn’t think I had any future, my manager BELIEVED in me more than I believed in myself. He wanted me to succeed even more than I did.”

My reaction was WOW!  What a perfect example of what I teach in my program on 4C Leadership:  Communication, Cooperation, Commitment, and Change.  Your thoughts about your employees, your coworkers, even your spouse and kids can and do make all the difference in the world for those other folks.

So how can you use your thoughts to bring out the best in others?

1. Acknowledge the Power of Belief.

Just like that top sales performer I talked about earlier, everyone has a deep reservoir of ability inside of themselves.  And that reservoir of ability often goes untapped until someone else acknowledges its existence.

Quite simply, a person does his best when he knows someone believes in him and he does his worst when he thinks no one believes in him.  And this basic truth in motivation applies to everyone, no matter what gender, age, or race the person might be.

Of course, the cynics will say, “You can’t motivate anyone.”  Baloney!  You know very well that you produced your best work when you were led by a manager, teacher, coach, or friend who clearly believed in you.  Belief has incredible power.

The problem is, managers, leaders, and parents have not consciously, systematically used this truth to bring out the best in others. They haven’t applied a step-by-step methodology of belief that will produce the results they want.

There are a few things you can do about this.

2. Forget the ‘No-News-Is-Good-News’ Pitfall.

Lots of leaders do not understand how motivation works. They mistakenly think “no news is good news.”  In other words, if he/she doesn’t say anything to the employee, the employee can assume that everything is okay. The employee can assume the leader believes in the employee.

Well managers can think that all they want, but that’s not how employees think. Managerial silence or a lack of feedback does not get interpreted by the employees as a sign of positive belief. Employees interpret silence as a negative.  They interpret silence as either

a. “I’m not that important to the leader,” or

b. “The leader is gathering evidence to use against me.”

The no-news-is-good-news philosophy simply doesn’t work. Even though the employee may know she has talent or has done a good job, she needs to know that the manager also believes that.

3. Expand Your Focus Beyond the Problems.

Some managers think it’s their duty to point out employees’ mistakes and suggest solutions. They adopt a problem-solving mindset and spend most of their time fighting fires, resolving difficulties, and fixing crises.  As a result, these managers are so busy solving problems that they forget to exhibit their belief in their employees.

This approach to management or leadership is half-baked at best. Certainly employees need guidelines. They need help with problems.  But once again, employees also need to know youbelieve in them.  And they won’t assume your consuming focus on the problems at work is the same thing as your belief in them.

To make matters worse, when employees think you don’t believe in them, they get fearful. And fearful people don’t speak up or offer an opinion. They’re too afraid to disagree and they’re unwilling to participate in team meetings. Their thoughts and feelings, if they ever do come out, come out behind your back where they do you no good whatsoever.

Your employees need to hear your belief in them expressed in words once in a while.  In fact, most people can trace their success back to someone who told them “I believe in you.”

4. Recognize the Cost of Not Expressing Your Belief.

If you don’t express your sincere belief in someone, you run the risk of shutting down the other person’s insights and talents. You run the risk of losing out on their suggestions to any improvements you might want to make.  You demoralize them.

The Russian military learned that after the Russian Revolution of 1917.

Their official communist policy became that of showing no overt signs of believing in the officers. All status signs were taken away. The officers swabbed their own quarters, ate with the rank and file, stood in line with the orderlies, and received no privileges, salutes, or titles.

Overnight the military sank to its lowest level in military history. The officers were completely demoralized. They were worthless as soldiers to say nothing of their leadership. It soon became obvious that their approach was a huge motivational mistake, so Russia began to show overt belief in its officers. Medals, trophies, and titles were used generously to give distinction to all segments of the army.

Russia had overlooked one glaring, compelling fact in human behavior. To get the best from people, you must show belief in people.  People will work harder for someone who believes in them than they will for almost any other motivator.

Final Thought:  The more you believe in others, the more they will do to prove you right.

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Quote for the Day, Monday June 13, 2016

“Everything is very simple in war, but the simplest thing is difficult.”
— Carl von Clausewitz

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The Last of Us, Red circles or rings around eyes and irises, and bloodshot eyes [Kahlan’s Con Dar]

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Red circles or rings around eyes make you look sleepy, tired, and ages older than you actually are. Eyes contour the face and red periorbital circles can easily be spotted. Appearance may vary depending on skin tone from dark red, brownish purplish, or dark blue. This is why red eye circles may be classified under dark under eye circles. Red rings around the eyes are equally found in men and women. While they usually occur in adults, children can also have them.

Depending on the cause, red circles around eyes may be accompanied with pain or swelling. While there are things you can do at home to reduce pain, swelling and get rid of this dark patches, it is advisable to see an ophthalmologist if there is increasing pain or redness.

What causes red circles around eyes? Sometimes called periorbital circles or allergic shiners, red circles around eyes can have many causes. Most of the times it is assumed that it is from lack of sleep, a night of heavy drinking, or doping with “blood rage”. Despite these assumptions, these are not the only causes. While there are many causes of red circles around eyes, this problem is rarely associated with serious conditions or systemic infections.

Blood Rage [its common street name] is formally known as Kahlan’s Con Dar. Named after the Kahlan, the “confessor” Kum variant that secretes it as a powerful narcotic “ingredient” mixed in with its subjugating saliva while tainting and subsequently enslaving a fed upon host. This newest identified Kum variant seems to have come out of nowhere about a year ago, and is parochial to the sewers underneath the Upper West Side of Manhattan in New York City. Its potent saliva is the newest vogue drug among recreational drug users, so-called “casual” addicts, and hardcore junkies alike.

According to ageless.co.za, the skin around the eyes is the thinnest and the most fragile on the entire face and must all the time be treated with utmost care.

Here are common causes of dark circles under eyes:

  • Allergies: hay fever, nasal congestion and sinus problems.
  • Genetics
  • Stress
  • Topical dermatitis
  • Iron deficiency anemia
  • Broken capillaries
  • Skin pigmentation abnormalities
  • Excessive exposure to the sun
  • Aging
  • Hormones and pregnancy
  • Wiping and rubbing
  • Dehydration causing dry eyes
  • Side effect from certain drugs
  • Lifestyle- excessive smoking and drinking
  • Minor trauma or irritation from contact lenses
  • Sleep deprivation
  • Blood Rage abuse, either from illicit drug use or from being used by a Kahlan

Red Ring around Iris of Eye

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Red ring around the iris of the eye is usually a side effect of wearing contact lenses which are ill fitting or torn. It can also be a reaction to the contact lens itself or the cleaning solution. If you do not wear contact lens and develop a red rind around the iris of the eye, it may be secondary to bacteria or viral conjunctivitis. Corneal ulcer or iritis are rather uncommon causes.

Please note: If someone is engaged in heavy blood rage doping, they will always exhibit bloodshot eyes as well as red rings or circles around the irises of their eyes, in association with the expected red rings or circles around the eyes themselves. Bloodshot eyes and red iris rings are never associated with light to medium [blood rage] doping. This combination of bloodshot eyes and red rings or circles around the eye and their irises is known as Ares Pinks or simply Pinks.

If you’re not a heavy blood rage doper. Or been used by a Kahlan. And thus know your Pinks is not caused by blood rage. You should consider seeing your ophthalmologist for a better diagnosis and treatment. Be sure to carry your contacts and contact lens cleaner as well.

Note that if the red circles around your eyes is genetic, it may a little difficult to get rid of the discoloration. You can choose to use makeup to conceal the redness or go for permanent cosmetic solutions such as eye fillers or surgery. If the redness around your eyes is long standing even after using the remedies described above, you should consult with your physician to rule out chronic illnesses and other systemic conditions.

Sources and References

  • What is the cause of red tired eyes: Ageless
  • Redness around iris: Eye smart
  • How to get rid of red eyes with makeup: Videojug
  • How to get rid of dark under eye circles for good: allure

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Quote for the Day, Saturday June 11, 2016 [Keep Calm-o-Matic]

“Keep calm or panic, I don’t care.” — I saw this on someone’s t-shirt, today.

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Earth: Final Conflict In Depth Review — Hot Blondes Rulz!!!

Over view of all five seasons of this syndicated sci-fi show. Or, as I put it early in the review, “How to fuck up a TV show in five increasingly baffling seasons.” Critical analysis, clips, and snarky captions throughout.

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Dr Zimmerman’s Tuesday Tip — 6 Ways to Bring Out the Best in Others

Don’t ever let anyone tell you that people don’t change. That’s baloney!

An ignorant person will tell you that you can’t teach an old dog new tricks. But I will tell you that human beings are not dogs and education is not a bag of tricks.

The truth is…

1. People Change When You Change Your Attitude Toward Them.

That was evident in a Brooklyn, New York classroom of eleventh grade boys. These particular boys were so difficult that they caused seven teachers in six weeks to quit their jobs. 70% of the boys were drug users and 65% had been arrested.

Out of desperation, the only other teacher the principal could find was a 69-year old lady he called out of retirement. He told her he would have a policeman in the room to protect her. But she said,“Let me look at the list of boys’ names.” She did and immediately she perked up and said, “Don’t worry about me. I love teaching, and I love boys. There won’t be any problems.”

The net result was she stayed the entire year. The boys became well behaved young men who made their best grades ever. It was a miraculous turnaround.

Because of her success, the school gave her a recognition banquet. They all praised her and they all wondered what her secret was. She said it was simple. When she first looked at the list of boys’ names, she noticed every one of them had a score next to his name, a high score between 120 and 160. She said when she saw their IQ’s, she knew instantly it would be a super class.

The principal was flabbergasted. He said, “Didn’t you know? When you looked at the list of boys’ names, those weren’t their IQ’s. Those were their locker numbers.”

It was her attitude toward the boys that made the difference. The first seven teachers saw the negative behavior of the boys, had a negative attitude toward them, acted defensively, and got a disastrous response. The 69-year old teacher came with a positive attitude about the boys’ potential and that changed her behavior and their response.

In other words, if you see a person as a loser, you will probably treat that person as a loser. And more often than not, the other person will respond like a loser. But if you approach that same person with a positive attitude, if you see the potential in the other person, he will often exhibit his potential.

So let me ask you, “Do people change?”  Of course they do. But the change is often preceded by your changed attitude toward them.

That being the case, how do you develop the right attitude about people?  How can you bring out their best?

My keynote and seminar on The Power of Partnership: 7 Skills for Better Relationships and Greater Teamwork will give you all the skills you need to make it happen.

Until we meet face-to-face at a program, here are a few tips to get you started.

2. Picture Yourself As an Understanding Individual.

Stop seeing yourself as impatient.  Stop telling yourself you’re no good with people.  And stop telling yourself you’re too much of a techie … or whatever … to really get into “this people thing.”
Start seeing yourself as understanding, patient, and kind. And hold that picture in your mind for a few seconds every day. The more you practice your picture, the more you’ll become that way.

3. Affirm Your Desire to Understand People.

There are times you won’t like what you see in other people. Their behavior turns you off. And you will have little or no desire to understand why they behave the way they do.

To short circuit such reactions, you need to affirm your desire to understand people. Tell yourself, “I want to understand people. I want to understand what makes them tick. And I want to understand every person with whom I interact.” Tell yourself these kinds of affirmations and you will create the desire you need to build the attitude you want.

4. Recognize the Drive in Others.

It may seem obvious, but lots of people ignore a basic truth — that no one wants to be a failure. Everyone wants to succeed. Everyone wants to achieve something or be somebody.

Of course, not everyone looks that way. On the surface, some people look so depressed, down, and negative, that they don’t seem to have any ambition whatsoever.

Despite their appearance, I would contend that deep down, somewhere inside those people, there is still a little spark of desire to have or be more. If you will remember that, it will be much easier to have a positive attitude toward such people.

And it will be much easier to bring out their best. As Bill Hewlett, one of the founders of Hewlett Packard said, “Our policy flows from the belief that men and women want to do a good job, a creative job, and if they are provided with the proper environment they will do so.”

5. Be Slow to Judge.

The Native American Indians knew this. They prayed, “Great Spirit, help me never to judge another until I have walked two weeks in his moccasins.” They knew it was easy to write someone off if they only looked at the outside of the person. But they also knew they were less likely to judge someone if they just put themselves in the other person’s shoes.

The Christian tradition takes it bit further. They say, “Hate the sin but not the sinner.” In other words, you can’t condone and you shouldn’t condone wrongful behavior. However, it’s a lot easier to accept someone if you restrict your dislike to his wrongful behavior rather than his entire personhood.

6. See the Good in Others.

It’s amazing how some people are determined to look for the bad in others. They almost seem to get a kick out of finding fault in someone else.

Of course, truly effective people think quite differently. They know there’s always something good in others. As American folk hero Will Rogers said, “I never met a person I didn’t like…but sometimes you got to look real hard.”

That was the case with Bill, a person that attended my two-day Journey-to-the-Extraordinary program.  Bill said even though he is a very successful businessman today, he was a major problem as an adolescent. He was selling drugs in junior high, and he was in and out of reform school, constantly in trouble. Bill told me had it not been for one teacher in 12th grade he believed he would be in prison today.

Bill continued. He said when he walked into his 12th grade English class, the teacher pulled him aside. Mrs. Wolfkowitz said, “Bill, you’ve got quite a reputation around here. I’ve been told you’re no good. But I want you to know I don’t see it that way.”

Mrs. Wolfkowitz continued, “I’ve seen you help out a few younger students and I’ve seen you be quite polite on occasion. I believe there’s goodness inside of you and that’s what I expect to see this year in my class.”

Bill said Mrs. Wolfkowitz was the first person who ever spoke to him that way and from that day forward, he changed for the better.

History is full of stories of gifted people whose talents were overlooked by a host of people. And their talents lay dormant until someone looked for the good in them. Such was the case with Einstein, who couldn’t speak until he was four years old. And such was the case with Walt Disney, who was fired by a newspaper editor who said he had no good ideas. Until someone saw the good in them, they didn’t amount to much.

You may or may not be a leader in your company or in your family.  But you are a leader in the eyes of someone.  So don’t miss your opportunity to bring out that person’s best.  As sales consultant Dave Yoho says, “In every human being God has placed a special gift, a special talent that may not be seen. Our job as leaders is to find that gift and help that person develop it.”

Final Thought:  Your attitude towards another person may be the first step in releasing that person’s greatness.

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